Be more present through mindfulness

Using mindfulness to let go of worry

Be more present through mindfulnessWe can often get caught up in worrying about the future, especially during uncertain times. We can also get caught up in ruminating over what has happened in the past and wishing that things were different somehow.

When we’re preoccupied with worrying or ruminating, we often end up missing out on what’s happening in the here and now. What’s right in front of us. This is called being in “auto pilot” mode. We can’t change what has happened in the past. Nor can we predict or control what will happen to
us in the future. All we’ve really got control over is the here and now.

Being in the here and now

If we’re paying attention to our worries, this will only make us worry more. Therefore it’s a very useful skill to be able to recognise when we’re starting to worry so that we can re-direct our attention back to the here and now.

We can use our emotions as a cue to help us to do this. For instance, if we’re feeling anxious then that suggests we’re worrying about something. If we’re feeling down, the chances are that we’re ruminating over something that’s happened in the past.

What can you do about worry?

When you notice that you’re feeling that way, try asking yourself this question “Can I do something about this?” If the answer is yes, by all means try to come up with an action plan to try to resolve that problem. After all once it’s been dealt with, it’s no longer a problem so we can let that worry go.

If the answer is no, that suggests it’s something that’s not within our control. It also suggests it’s something that’s either been and gone or it hasn’t actually happened yet. That tells us it’s a hypothetical situation and there’s nothing we can do about it now. In those circumstances, no amount of worrying about it will affect the outcome of it. Therefore it would be more beneficial for us if we could learn to let those worries go.

Top tips for letting go of worry

Try these tips to help you to learn to let go of hypothetical worries so that you can live more mindfully in the present moment:

  • Use your senses (what you can see, hear, smell, taste and feel) to focus on what you’re doing in the present moment. You can try this with things such as when you’re preparing a meal, taking a shower or going for a walk. Or you can try more formal mindfulness exercises such as meditation.
  • It doesn’t matter what activities you choose to practice mindfulness. The key is to find something that you enjoy and that works for you.
  • When you notice your mind has wandered during those exercises (which it will…!) don’t get frustrated with yourself. This is just what the mind wants to do.
  • The trick is as soon as you’ve noticed it’s wandered off to gently bring your attention back to what you were doing.
  • It doesn’t matter how many times your mind has wandered off. Just notice when it’s happened and each time just gently returning your focus back to the present moment again.

The more you practice this, the better you will become at noticing when you’re mind has started to wander. So when you start to get preoccupied with worrying or ruminating, you’ll be able to bring your attention back to the present moment instead and break the cycle.

Therapies and services that could help tackle worry

When it comes to doing something to tackle worries there are several therapies that could help.

Hypnotherapy - You could learn how to take control of the worrying voice in your head and turn down the volume or even shut if off completely. Combining this with deep relaxation and being in the present moment, this could be an ideal solution for many people who used to worry.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - CBT is similar to hypnotherapy in many ways but just doesn't involve going into a trance. CBT is often solution focused and is designed to help you develop the tools to tackle your worries.

Counselling - Through talking with a counsellor you could find that it is possible to understand what it is that caused you to start worrying about thinks in the first place and to work through those early experiences and to feel differently about them in the present.

Massage therapy - You might be the kind of person who will benefit from your stresses and tensions being massaged away. When your body feels more relaxed that could help your thoughts to be more relaxed

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